Cacao, Motherhood & the Embodiment of Self-Love

This past weekend, I experienced a deep and beautiful connection with cacao during our ceremony. As I’ve stepped more fully into motherhood, cacao has become an incredible ally—a steady source of nourishment and support. Because let’s be honest: some seasons of motherhood are just hard.

Later that night after our ceremony, I heard six simple words echo in my heart:

“It is okay to love yourself.”

The words landed like a truth I didn’t know I was waiting for. In that moment, I realized how often I rush through caring for myself. I tend to put myself last. The level of nourishment I give myself often depends on how much energy I have left after giving to everyone else. And many days, there’s nothing left at all.

We know self-care is important. Intellectually, we understand its necessity. But when we look around at our society, it’s clear how deeply we’ve neglected ourselves. We see it in the burnout, emotional disconnection, rising anxiety, and a collective sense of emptiness. We know we need self-care. We know the cost of not offering it to ourselves.

But here’s what struck me most: it's not just about knowing we need care. It’s about how we feel when we actually try to receive it.

When you take a moment for yourself—how do you feel?
Guilty? Rushed? Shameful?

Do you hurry through a routine that was meant to nourish you, only to feel more depleted afterward? This was me. Making a choice to give back to myself only to feel immense guilt. 

Even the simplest acts—taking a shower, applying your favorite skincare just because it feels good—can become sacred acts of self-love. But only if we give ourselves permission to slow down and receive them.

To truly receive love from ourselves is a radical act in a world that teaches us to constantly give, perform, and produce.

And this is why cacao has been such a powerful ally on my journey.

Cacao helps me move from intellectual understanding to embodied experience. She gently guides me beyond the idea of “I should love myself” and brings me into the feeling of it. Into the practice of it. Into the being of it. She helps you move through the layers of healing .

With cacao, self-love shifts from a concept to a lived reality.
It stops being a noun and becomes a verb—an action, an energy, a devotion.

This is how we heal.
This is how we remember.
This is how we come home to ourselves—again and again.

And this is why I believe so deeply in sharing cacao, the motherhood journey, and learning how to nourish ourselves. 

For Violet....